Confrontation: It’s not ALL bad.

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Believing in Your Right to Confront What is Important to You

By: Brad Cullum, MA, LPC, EMDR

Confrontation many times is thought to be bad.  It denotes a heated argument that often turns ugly and hurtful, but confrontation is also defined as a “situation” that can occur between opposing parties.  I want to focus on the latter, because confrontation can be freeing, relieving us of anxiety and guilt.  It allows dialogue to occur to gain clarity.

Many of us have been taught to avoid confrontation. But I’d submit that when we avoid confrontation, we are giving up our voice and allowing others to dictate the terms of our relationships.  We are so afraid that others will be angry and we set our own feelings aside.  We tell ourselves it’s not worth the backlash or it’s not worth the effort because they won’t listen anyway.  Sometimes this is true. When others will not allow our voice to be heard and we cower when situations are uncomfortable, we will never get our needs met.  

What makes it okay for others to confront?  Have you ever watched people on TV and say to yourself, how can they speak so confidently about a controversial issue?  There has been times even in counseling that I hide my spiritual beliefs due to fear that I might offend or make someone uncomfortable.  The truth is, we need to be made uncomfortable to gain knowledge, and clarity in life.  If we reduce our relationships to cordial interactions, what will be learned?  Healthy, respectful confrontation is vital and we must be willing to engage and interact without fear of other’s response. 

I challenge you to live life courageously, without apologies for who you are and believing in your right to confront what is important to you.  You are someone who has a voice and you have a right to use it.

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Brad Cullum is a Professional Counselor working in Argyle, Texas.  He provides therapy for those struggling with issues related to communication, marriage, relationships, family issues, and more.  He is the Owner of Harvest Counseling & Wellness and Co-Founder of Redeemed Life Counseling, LLC.  His office is located near Denton, Highland Village, Flower Mound, Lantana, Roanoke, and Justin.  If you are looking for a therapist in the Argyle area, contact him today for a complimentary phone consultation, 940-241-4140. 


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